By Susanna Sweeney, MSc, MBACP, CHT
This article introduces you to Self Havening, a lesser known but very powerful self care and personal development tool that you can use at home for minding yourself and your family. I will talk you through how to use it and what you must look out for to set you up for a great start with this fantastic method.
I have also asked my colleague and friend Louise McKay who is an authority on Self Havening to give an input, and you can watch my interview with Louise above.
How I use Self Havening
On a personal level, I have been using Self Havening as part of my morning routine every day since I learned about it. I can safely say that it has boosted my outcomes.
How exactly do I use Self Havening? In my morning routine I use hypnosis and meditation. I now combine self havening with the self hypnosis part of my routine. Here, I usually focus on my current goals and intentions. I now apply Havening Touch while I do so.
What results am I getting with it? Adding the delta waves to my morning routine gives me that extra boost of both relaxation and determination that makes me feel good about myself and the day ahead. As a result I find that tasks are easier completed and it puts a spring in my step.
Also, whenever something is bothering me or I feel something has to be cleared, I will use self havening as a first port of call. Why? Firstly, because it is so easy to do- you don't need any induction, you don't need to relax deeply, you don't need to close your eyes- you don't even need privacy. All you need is Havening Touch applied in the right way and with that, often, the issue at hand- such as fear or annoyance, will be resolved within minutes.
You have probably picked up by now that the Havening method was developed on the basis of neuroscientific research. Every process used in Havening is based on research findings as to what works best for depotentiating receptors in the amygdala that are responsible for keeping traumatic memory at bay. The process of depotentiation is set in motion by delta brain waves.
How do you produce delta brain waves? One particular study, Mel Harper's 2012 Taming the Amygdala, pointed to touch being able to generate delta waves, and even pinpointed which areas of the body would produce the highest amount of delta waves in response to touch: the face, shoulders, arms and the inside of the palms.
Also emerging from Mel Harper's study as way of producing delta waves, were bilateral eye movements. These days, we consider them optional in Havening, so if you like them, you can include them in your self havening routine. If you find them uncomfortable as some people do, simply leave them out.
How do you perform bilateral eye movements? You simply look from left to right and from right to left and keep up that movement for a little while. You can have your eyes open for this part, or you can close them- it doesn't matter.
That's about the extend of what you need to know to start a daily Self Havening practice. It really is that simple to set up and do. Once you have the hang of it, you can bring this routine with you wherever you go. The power to care for yourself is in your hands!
Children usually really take to Self Havening. It comes naturally to them. Once they are shown how to use it, they can bring it with them wherever they go, even to school- and when something bothers them , when they are feeling anxious or emotionally unwell in another way, it can act as a mental health first aid tool.
You can include your children and use Self Havening together. It's a lovely routine to share with them and can really lift the entire family's spirits. It can become a morning or evening routine that you do together, or it can set the kids up before starting into their homework. Five to ten minutes is all that it takes to prime everyone for the day or for the next task ahead.
Regard Self Havening as a self help practice. While that can be very supportive and helpful, it won't replace a doctor's visit when you need to have a health or mental health concern checked out.
When you know you are dealing with underlying trauma, or if you are experiencing severe symptoms such as fears and phobias or panic attacks, do seek the help of an experienced Havening practitioner who will be able to guide you through the depotentiation process safely.
This article gives a solid introduction to Havening that I recommend you read first.
Meet Dr. Ron and Dr. Steve Ruden, founders of the Havening Techniques®, who- in two indepth interviews,disclose the fascinating story of how this cutting edge psychosensory modality was developed.
I hope you have enjoyed this article and found it useful to add to your self help tool kit.
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